Showing posts with label faith. Show all posts
Showing posts with label faith. Show all posts

Wednesday, May 27, 2015

Girls Night

So the afternoon before the party I start feeling tired and start regretting letting the 3rd grade girls class talk us in to a Girls Night at the church. They wanted a lock-in, but I used my master skills of negotiation to talk them into a 4 hours girls-only extravaganza.  It was barely after noon and I wanted a nap. My mood was less than cheery and I was trying to think of ways out of this pre-teen party.

Knowing I'd agreed, promised and planned the thing, I went home after work, pasted on a smile, gathered my child and our things and headed for the church. We got things situated and waited for the first child to arrive. When the first girl showed up, there was the same feeling of trepidation that I felt. Then the third child arrived and the squealing and tumbling and laughing started. It didn't stop the entire time we were there.

It was an Queen Esther themed evening with games, crafts, beauty treatments, a fashion show and more. In regular "momma-ratzi" fashion, I took lots of pictures. The little ladies hammed it up for the camera all evening. Even though my partners in crime and I were tired moms, each with 4 kids of our own at home, I think that we knew what this evening could mean to these girls. We wanted them to know they are special, they are chosen, and they are called.



In the story of Queen Esther, she was chosen to undergo a year of beauty treatments and training, presented to the king and then chosen to be his queen. While she was queen an evil man plotted to kill the Jews. Because of her position and favor with the king, Esther was able to foil the plot and save her people.

At the end of the night I took a little video and asked them about their favorite activity of the evening. Many of the girls said it was the, "best night ever!"


We made some great memories for the young ladies in attendance, but more importantly they know that they are loved by a great king. Who knows but that you have been called to (insert the thing you may not want to do) host a 3rd grade girls night for such a time as this.

Friday, January 23, 2015

Family Meal Time


So last Friday for dinner, we enjoyed a catered meal that was part of the pre-paid funeral my dad arranged. It was weird, but it was brilliant. It was one last party planned by a fun loving guy. It was a beautiful opportunity for our family to share a meal and be blessed by his thoughtfulness. Tonight the Medleys enjoyed Tex-mex again...remembering .



Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Resolution: Kindness

I've determined to be kind this year. It’s as good a resolution as any for a new year Now I'm not always perfect at it and there are times when I have to speak hard truth in love, but I'm choosing to be kind as a way of living.

What you sow you reap (and we could all use a little kindness), and kindness has a way of healing hurts and bringing peace to a household. It is worth the consideration and effort that it takes to make that lifestyle change.

Here I am going to study what the Word has to say about kindness and ask the Lord to teach me day by day how to live a life of kindness.

... put on a heart of ... kindness ... Colossians 3:12 NAS

Definition
The Bible uses the word kind 59 times. But what does it mean to be kind? I thought I'd start with the definition so here is it:

In English, kindness has come to mean being warm-hearted and considerate. The origin of the word is from the very same Saxon word kind which means family, or child, as in kin, or kindred. In German, kind means child - as in the German word kindergarten, which literally means a children's garden.

Kindness literally means being gentle and caring, as with a child, or with family. In the Hebrew Scriptures, the word most-often translated as kindness is (pronounced) kheh-sed; it means merciful or gracious. In the New Testament, the Greek word (pronounced) kray-sto-tace, which means gentleness, is usually translated as kindness.

Origin Word Pronunciation Meaning
English kindness warm-hearted and considerate
Hebrew Hesed kheh-sed merciful or gracious
Greek kyrie kray-sto-tace gentleness
Elos mercy

But what does it look like?
I'm going to look at Abraham, Ruth, Samuel, David, Job, Jeremiah.... to discover what it looks like to be kind

1. How do I exhibit kindness in my daily life?
2. What can I do to develop more of a kindness attitude?
3. What blocks the practice of kindness in my life? How can I make kindness function better, stronger, and faster, even in times of uncertainty and stress?
4. How can I make kindness function better, stronger, and faster, even in times of uncertainty and stress?

Kindness (Rom. 2:1-4; 12:9-21; Ephesians 4:32; Col. 3:12-14; 1 John 3:16-23) is the medium through which Christ’s love becomes tangible through us. It is practicing benevolence and a loving attitude towards others. Kindness is the essence that shows the world that we are a Christian, like the fragrance coming from a flower. It is being convicted with God’s Word, and then modeling it to others. Kindness is the subject to the object of who we are in Christ!

Cruelty, spitefulness, being mean, and holding grudges are the opposites. This can include seeking to harm someone, being cruel and rude, or just ignoring people you do not like. God created us for relationships, and when we ignore this, we fail in the most important aspect in life besides our relationship in Him!

· Here are positive examples from Scripture (Gen. 39:21-23; Josh. 2:4-16; Ruth 2:8-16; 3:15; Luke 7:2-6; Acts 24:23; 27:3, 43)
· Here are negative examples from Scripture (Gen. 21:9-14; 37:12-36; Ex. 5:6-18; Luke 22:64; John 19:3)

My Prayer
"Remember, O Lord, Thy tender mercies and Thy loving kindnesses; for they have been ever of old. Remember not the sins of my youth, nor my transgressions: according to Thy mercy remember Thou me for Thy goodness' sake, O Lord. Good and upright is the Lord: therefore will He teach sinners in the way. The meek will he guide in judgment: and the meek will He teach His way." (Psalm 25:6-9 KJV)

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

God's Economy or We Met the Veggie Tales


Don't you just love God's economy? You give it away and it comes back to you - 10 fold it seems. The Law of Sowing and Reaping. It works.

For example, my little sisters best friend from high school (follow that?) gave me some of her maternity clothes, but I'd loaned her mine at Heidi 's wedding - the weekend we got pregnant with Addison - who knew?

Plus, this weekend she gave us toys, a jumper, and some baby cereal too. Instead of holding onto the entire bag full of unopened cereal for the next 7+ months and trying to find a place to store it, I gave it to the ladies at Parents Day Out where my children go twice a week to use with the kids there, to share with the other parents, etc. As I was walking out the door that morning the lady at the front desk commented that I had ulterior motives - that I knew God would return to me what I gave away.


I do know that!
I got an email this week about a local Christian Radio Station needing volunteers to help with a Veggie Tales Live Event that was in town. I called and told them I could help during the 3PM show, but that I had tickets to bring my kids to the 7PM show. It was a great afternoon. I took photos, passed out free stuff, signed folks up for a drawing....not much different than what I do at my day job really. After the show I rushed to pick up Clayton and we went straight back to the church where the Veggies were so that we could get in the first come first serve line - to get better seats. My mom was going to come about 30 minutes later with the little one and Billy was working on getting over there from taking care of his dad. I was really sort of in a panic hurrying to get the best seats I could. I would have to find 6 all together.
I should have known that the one who loves me best already had it all worked out for me. As Clay and I walked in to give the gals our tickets, the lady I volunteered for earlier that day was standing right there and told me that the seats in the middle of the front row were roped off for us. The best seats in the house! I was amazed. God knew and already had it worked out.
The kids had room to dance and chase bubbles and interact with the characters on stage. It was a truly memorable night. Watching them sing every word to the songs, praising God and being silly was a blessing.
And to make things even sweeter, during intermission they were giving away Meet and Greet passes for after the show to folks who could answer Veggie Trivia Questions. Guess who won? Billy! So we all got to go shake hands and hug on Bob and Larry after the show.
Is my God good, or what?

Monday, August 25, 2008

Book Club: Big Russ and Me


My sister and I are on our third book club book with our dad. Since we are reading Tim Russerts book about his father in our book club, here are a few questions:


Thinking about the whole book:


1. Big Russ and Me can be considered a collection of anecdotes. Did you have a favorite story? Why? Did it remind you of personal stories about your father or your upbringing?


2. It is implied throughout this book that the values of the 1950's and 1960's should be incorporated in our contemporary culture. Do you agree? Do you think this is happening?


3. Big Russ represents good values and common sense. Do you think these are unique traits of his personality or are they a reflection of his generation?


4. Russert takes pride in his city of origin: Buffalo, New York. Do you think his stories would be as interesting if they were set in another city?


5. Russert speaks with pride about his Irish-Catholic heritage. Do you think the values that he refers to in the book are heritage specific?


6. What is the appeal of Big Russ and Me? Is it a rags-to-riches story? Is it the reminiscence of simpler times? Or, is it just entertainment?


7. Have you watched Tim Russert on NBC News or Meet The Press? If so, did you notice anything in his reporting style that reflects his upbringing?


8. Tim Russert died unexpectedly on June 13,2008. There was a sizable public response of tribute, mourning and loss. Which do you think most contributed to his popularity, his books or his TV personality?


9. Big Russ and Me inspired many readers to send their own stories to Tim Russert. Consequently, he published another book with those stories titled Wisdom of Our Fathers: Lessons and Letters From Daughters and Sons.

My Inheritance

This weekend my mom, sister and I went to San Antonio for a girls weekend with Beth Moore - and boy was it incredible!

Thinking about where you are and where you're going...you have to decide - to choose if one is going to affect the other. If we are join heirs with Christ and his inheritance is the same as ours in Gods economy - I have a beautiful inheritance!

Psalms 16:5 The LORD is(F) my chosen portion and my(G) cup; you hold my(H) lot.6(I) The lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; indeed, I have a beautiful inheritance.

Sitting next to my mother and my sister, thinking about my inheritance in temporal ways, I was quite impressed to think about all of those things that I have inherited from the two ladies that I have spend more time with than any others - faithfulness, humor, loyality. They are pretty impressive women.

Heidi, my sister, was the spotlight Siesta on the Siesta Fiesta Blog. She is just amazing.

Spending time in the word with Bible Teacher, Beth Moore was incredible, and building memories with my favorite Siesta's was priceless.

Thursday, April 24, 2008

Wedding Shower Surprise

When I was a graduate student, planning an enormous wedding and the full-time high school English Teacher for some of the best kids ever, I was busier than I had ever been, moving at break-neck speeds all the time, but I also had a great peace. I was pulling a 4.0 in graduate school. My wedding ceremony was scripted down to the minute and included every last detail. My substitute was scheduled and lesson plans were ready to go. I only had a few days left and all my ducks were lining up. But I knew that if one got out of line, they were all gone.

Finally, my last day at school as “Miss Phillips” arrived. I got to school early, like I usually do to take care of any unfinished business from the day before. In front of my classroom door I unloaded the bags from my shoulder so I could unlock the door and as I opened the door I heard something scraping the floor. I quickly flipped on the lights to see what catastrophe waited. There was paper wrapped around my door that was scrapping the floor. There were messages of love on foil taped to my computer monitors. Black and white strips of butcher paper were draped across the ceiling. They even covered my entire desk in foil to which each of my little angels signed their names. My students decorated my classroom for an impromptu Wedding Shower!

And if that wasn't enough, each period that day poured into my room with wedding gifts, cake and food so they could celebrate with me. What a blessing! That day quickly put all the pomp and circumstance of life into perspective. I couldn’t have asked for more.

May he grant your heart's desire and fulfill all your plans (Ps 20:4) as well.

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

Human Do-ing

One of our church secretaries passed away suddenly about a year ago and I asked the pastor what I could do to help. He told me to “just be.” He says we are human beings not human doings. But if there are "do-ers" and there are "be-ers," I fall definitively into the "do-er" group. I'm wired with an impulse and drive to be at work to have projects and tasks. I'm a list maker, one of those who puts things on the list that are already done just to put a check beside them, and I feel good about myself when I'm productive. I can, at times, drive myself and the people around me crazy! Besides the lack of pause, prayer and compassion for the tired, God has shown me that there's another huge problem with my approach: My significance is to be found in Him alone.

God, in His great Love and mercy, has used times of waiting to realign my values with His. He has taken me through several times when I felt that my life was on an aimless path. I still had dreams and visions, but I didn't feel like I was on track. These were times of forced stillness and quiet.

God has always used those quiet times to whisper, "You are not loved or valued for the things that you do for me. You are loved and valued because I made you. You are mine. Find sufficiency in Me." One such time came when I was reading a Max Lucado children’s book to my Sunday School class, years before I had my own children. The main character in the story searches for the thing that he is good at doing, for his gift. And on his search his meets his maker who reassures him that he is perfect just the way his is. God has faithfully used waiting times to minister to my heart. He has also used it to ruthlessly cut out that love for works that can so easily become idolatrous in my life.

"I wait for the Lord, my soul waits, and in his word I put my hope." - Psalm 130:5

"My soul faints with longing for your salvation, but I have put my hope in your word. My eyes fail, looking for your promise; I say, 'When will you comfort me?'" - Psalm 119:81-82

Monday, April 21, 2008

Cheating Men

The chapter for our little book club this week starts with a strange woman coming early to the viewing after the authors father died. It was a woman the father had worked with, a woman who cried uncontrollably, and left before the "proper viewing started." A woman the family didn't know.

The author, born in 1953, says, "Here's the thing. I am now old enough to understand how a guy who cheats on his wife would have to act so that he could cheat on his wife. And then how he'd behave after he did."

What does that even mean? He goes on to say that his dad hated business trips, was always home at 5:30, whistled, was "catholic enough" and enjoyed his children. And that creates an affair proof man?

My father says a man's home situation has to be lacking for a man to want to cheat.Well, to that I say the man is lacking if he's not man enough to be honest and say, It's not working for me - before he's reduced to cheating, sneaking, lying...

Other insane theories include:

1. A theory exists that testosterone levels in men make them more susceptible to infidelity. This theory is based on the hypothesis that men are genetically predisposed to cheating because they are ingrained with the notion that the survival of the species is dependent on their procreation.

2. Men feel a sense of challenge in their infidelity. Actually being able to get away with an affair is a challenge that men enjoy. Additionally they enjoy the challenge of finding other women with which to cheat. To them the affair is more about the conquest then anything else.

3. It's an ego boost. The knowledge that they can find multiple women willing to engage in an intimate relationship with them is a tremendous self esteem builder for some men. They take pride in the ability to attract women and don’t care about the fact that doing so may destroy their relationship.

4. some have even tried to blame genetics

I imagine that the list is endless.

Truth is, adultery has been around forever, and has always given us something to talk about. Most reality TV shows these days center on it, as do gossip magazines. But we are far from cracking the big mystery: Why do some men cheat in relationships? All men know, at some level, that cheating is wrong. From the earliest age, we are taught the virtues of monogamy. "Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's wife." Yet it still happens.

More than 50% of all spouses are victims of infidelity, which means that one spouse in most marriages will suffer the greatest marital pain possible at some time during their lifetimes.
If you are on the brink of an affair, you may not be able to get yourself out before you have done untold damage to your family. I believe having an affair is the most cruel decision you could possibly make.

To avoid temptation, use the following rules from Dr. Harvey: 1) Spend all your recreational time either alone or with your spouse, 2) no meals alone with someone of the opposite sex, 3) no rides in cars alone with those of the opposite sex, 4) never tell someone of the opposite sex that you find them attractive or that you like them and 5) if someone of the opposite sex ever tells you that they find you attractive, start talking about how much you love your spouse.

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexual immoral. - Hebrews 13:4

A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. - Proverbs 31:10

If you put away the sin that is in your hand and allow no evil to dwell in your tent, then you will lift up your face without shame; you will stand firm without fear. - Job 11:14-15

Saturday, April 19, 2008

An Ordinary Life

During Bible college a professor took us to the synagogue for a service. It was a lesson in being "grafted in," a back to your roots kind of hands-on lesson. They were even going to have a cookies and punch reception for us afterwards. And this Saturday happened to be Holocaust Remembrance.

The Rabbi told a story about a hangman who moved into town and set up his gallows and on the first night he knocked on a the door of a house, took a man out and hanged him. The town people were horrified. And the next night the same thing. And the next. Until there was only one man left. The man cried out, "Why? Why are you doing this?" And the hangman replied, "because no one stopped me." And with that, he handed him.

It was on this day in 1943 that an uprising in the Warsaw Ghetto began. It was the largest ghetto uprising of World War II.

Hitler's army had invaded Poland in September of 1939. Warsaw was the last city in Poland to submit to the Nazis, but on September 27, after three weeks of resistance, the city finally surrendered. One Warsaw man wrote a chilling account in his diary, "All about us buildings lie in ruins. … If there is a Hell, this is it. [The] hospital was set afire. … The shrieks of those trapped in the flames could be heard for blocks around, even above the crash of shells and bombs."

Conditions only got worse. There were about 300,000 Jews in Warsaw to begin with, but thousands more Jewish refugees streamed in from smaller towns. On October 3, 1940, about a year after the invasion, the Nazis officially announced the establishment of the Warsaw Ghetto.

They built a wall around a section of the city measuring about 20 blocks by six blocks. Jews were given a month to move into the ghetto, and all non-Jews were ordered to leave. Jews had to leave almost all of their possessions in their homes, and many of the Poles who left the ghetto area moved into their old apartments.

Almost all of the Jews in Warsaw lost their jobs, and many of them went around collecting rags, bones, tin, and paper to sell to the Germans. Some worked in factories and shops set up by the Nazis. Others started trading on the black market.

In the winter, there were often fuel shortages, and not much gas and electricity. Pneumonia, influenza, bronchitis, and other diseases were common. Many people got frostbite, and some elderly people and children froze to death in their beds. The ground was so hard that graves had to be blasted out with dynamite. Fur coats, wood, and coal were smuggled in to keep people warm.

Eventually, small resistance groups began to pop up in the ghetto. One socialist group formed cells of five members each, so that the member only knew of the other four people in their cell. Underground newspapers were published in both Polish and Yiddish. The Nazis had confiscated almost all of the printing presses in the city, but people reconstructed presses from discarded machinery and printed the newspapers on paper they found in the trash. All the official schools were closed down, but secret schools were formed in basements and abandoned buildings. Professional musicians who had managed to keep their instruments began playing beautiful music on the streets. One survivor said they "turned Warsaw into a city of song."

In the summer of 1942, the Nazis began Operation Reinhard — the deportation of Jews from the Warsaw Ghetto to the concentration camp in Treblinka. From July to September, more than 300,000 Jews were deported, leaving only about 50,000 people in the ghetto. When reports of mass murder leaked back to the ghetto, a group of people, mostly young men, formed a resistance group called the Z.O.B. — which in Polish stood for Jewish Fighting Organization.
Members of the group began ambushing Nazi officials and stealing their weapons, and they got more weapons by smuggling them in from outside the ghetto. The leader of the group, a 23-year-old man named Mordecai Anielewicz, organized several underground factories for making grenades, bombs, and mines. He also supervised the creation of a chain of tunnels, trenches, and bunkers for people to hide out in.

In January of 1943, ghetto fighters opened fire on German troops as they tried to round up more people for deportation. The Nazis were forced to retreat and the Jewish fighters gained the confidence to go ahead with a bigger revolt. Then, on this day, April 19, 1943, the first day of Passover, hundreds of German soldiers entered the ghetto in rows of tanks, planning to destroy the ghetto in three days. But resistance fighters fought back with the guns and grenades they had been storing. Fighting went on for days; when they ran out of grenades the Jews fought with kitchen knives, chair legs —whatever they could get their hands on. They hid in their trenches and tunnels and in the sewers. They held out for almost a month, but on May 16 the revolt ended. Nazis burned down buildings, shot many of the remaining Jews, and sent the rest of them to concentration camps.

On the 45th anniversary of the uprising, a survivor named Irena Klepfisz said, "What we grieve for is not the loss of a grand vision, but rather the loss of common things, events and gestures. … Ordinariness is the most precious thing we struggle for, what the Jews of the Warsaw Ghetto fought for. Not noble causes or abstract theories. But the right to go on living with a sense of purpose and a sense of self-worth — an ordinary life."

Be blessed to live an ordinary life.

Friday, April 18, 2008

World Changers

Do you wake up every morning and say "I'm going to change the world today!"? Most of us would feel a bit grandiose saying that, yet many of us really DO want to change the world, we DO want to make a difference.
It's easy to fall into the trap of believing we do not make any difference in the lives of others. We work and wonder if anything we say or do makes a difference in the lives of others.


And we often feel discouraged and disheartened at our inability to do that.But the truth is you DO make a difference. The question is "What kind of a difference do you make?"

When you're driving and someone pulls in front of you, do you yell and shake your fist? Or do you pry for their safety?

When someone in your family interrupts your work do you let them know (silently or not so silently) that they're bothering you? Or do you set aside what you're doing and listen attentively?

How you choose to respond to and interact with others will determine whether the difference you are making is positive or negative -- but you are making a difference. You can be a shining beam of light that brightens someones day or a dark cloud adding more dreary negativity. Your smile, kind word, or warm gesture could make all the difference to your family, friends, coworkers, or even to a stranger.

You may be thinking that it's no big deal; smiling at someone or saying something nice doesn't make much of a difference, but read this email sent to our church family today:

Dear Springs Family,

I hope this finds each of you doing well. It was so good seeing some of you over the Easter holiday. Morgan and I miss you all so much. There are so many of you who touched our lives in so many different ways...we are forever thankful.

To the men in the church I'd like to say a special thank you. I don't know if you all realize the true importance of the role you play in the lives of our children. Don't ever think that the simple hello, smile, touch on the shoulder, or morning hug doesn't make a difference in a child's life. You all set such a wonderful example in Morgan's life and I believe because of that, and the love my own father showed her, she has been more accepting of Tim's love for her. We still have a long way to go, but things could've been worse if she hadn't been shown God's love through you all. You are each a blessing to us.


As Mother Teresa said, "It is not the magnitude of our actions but the amount of love that is put into them that matters." I've heard many stories about a few words or a simple act changing someones life. We never know what the magnitude of our impact on someone will be or how it might ripple out into the world.

May you be a world changer today!

a lack of intelligence


There was a picture hanging outside one of my professors office door that portrayed evolution firing cannons at Christianity, the base of which is creation. The beginning. It's either all true or it's all false, you know?

The Bible tells us, "The fool says in his heart, 'There is no God'" (Psalm 14:1; 53:1). The Bible also proclaims that people are without excuse for not believing in a Creator God, "For since the creation of the world God's invisible qualities - His eternal power and divine nature - have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that men are without excuse" (Romans 1:20). According to the Bible, anyone who denies the existence of God is a fool. Why, then, are so many people, including some Christians, willing to accept that evolutionary scientists are unbiased interpreters of scientific data? According to the Bible, they are all fools! Foolishness does not imply a lack of intelligence. Most evolutionary scientists are brilliant intellectually. Foolishness indicates an inability to properly apply knowledge. Proverbs 1:7 tells us, "The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline."

If Creation is true, then there is a Creator to Whom we are accountable. Evolution gives atheists a basis for explaining how life exists apart from a Creator God. Evolution denies the need for a God to be involved in the universe. Evolution is the “creation theory” for the “religion” of atheism. According to the Bible, the choice is clear. We can believe the Word of our omnipotent and omniscient God, or we can believe the illogically biased, "scientific" explanations of fools.

To this end, I want you to join me in supporting the movie "Explled," which calls attention to the plight of highly credentialed scholars who have been forced out of prestigious academic positions because they proposed Intelligent Design as a possible alternative to Charles Darwin’s 150-year-old theories about the origins of life. Instead of entertaining a debate on the merits of competing theories, the scientific establishment has moved to suppress the ID movement in a “systematic and ruthless” way at odds with America’s founding principles, the film asserts. Check it out at
http://expelledthemovie.com/home.php

Wednesday, April 16, 2008

Marriage Battle


I once read that all weddings are happy. It’s the living together afterwards that causes all the trouble. I often feel as if my marriage has parachuted into the middle of enemy territory taking sniper fire from all sides. Other times it seems as if I am married to the enemy! Sometimes I am the enemy!


I had a co-worker tell me this week that it might be time for this marriage to end, like it was that easy. That really bothered me. I know, this world is not the friend of marriage. I was raised in a single parent home. But God is a friend of marriage; it was His idea! I know that we want a great marriages but we may feel as if the relationship has endured too much pain, that there is no hope. No matter where I am or where we've been in marriage, I belive the rest of our marriage can be the best part. Nothing is Impossible with God!

I have only been married for 6 years. And I can tell you, it's hard work. I'm not sure that we'd be at the place we are now without the supernatural work of God and certainly not without many tears, great pain and plain old hard work. Even before I met Billy I began learning truths about about marriage from watching others around me, but choosing commitment over comfort everyday is at the top of the list!

Truth: When the going gets tough, the tough stay right where they are!

A successful marriage requires commitment. The Spanish explorer, Cortes, insisted on total commitment from his men. They landed in Mexico planning to invade the land of the Aztecs. Sensing the fear of his crew Cortes gathered them all on shore and set fire to their ships. Turning to his men, Cortes explained, “Now there can be no turning back!” Marriage demands this level of commitment.

As much as I struggle with this I know this commitment also includes being submissive to your husband. Submission is a Godly heart attitude of reverence and respect; not the warped concept touted by the world. Are wives supposed to be silent partners, willing to follow blindly? Absolutely not! We are equal partners in the marriage relationship, sharing our hearts, using our talents and abilities while trusting God to work through our husband. Submission is the result of total faith in God. I was told one that the level of submission to our husband illustrates our level of submission to God. Will husbands make mistakes? Of course! But can God work through them? Yes! Submission then becomes a precious umbrella of protection and safety.


It seems that we live in a world of pre-packaged, disposable marriages. If it doesn’t work, we can simply throw the relationship away and find another! Some even start as recycled material. The result is pain and destruction that takes years of commitment and prayer to overcome. Commitment is not based upon changing, temporal feelings; feelings cannot build a solid marriage. Nowhere in the Bible does it say that love is the basis for marriage. It does say however, that marriage is the basis for love.


If you are hanging on in midst of a tough marriage let me encourage you that God is well aware of where you are! Someone once asked Napoleon to explain his bitter defeat at Waterloo. He responded, “The British didn’t win because they were better trained, larger or more equipped. They won because they fought five minutes longer!”


I sometimes wonder what battles we have lost because we gave up just a little too soon! Hold on! Hold on to your commitment to God and to your marriage! Because in marriages that really work, when the going gets tough, the tough stay right where they are!


When I was in junior high our youth pastors wife asked us to make a list of qualities that we wanted in a spouse. I thought it was corny, but as I grew in the Lord, I added to it, but never took anything off. And sometimes I get that list out to remind myself about the qualities that attracted me to Billy in the first place - and then I thank God for those traits in my husband. Now I'm going to go find Billy and thank him too.

Saturday, April 12, 2008

Is Jesus Enough?

“Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed, because His compassions fail not. They are new every morning; Great is Your faithfulness” -Lamentations 3:22-23

I love this verse. I have it up in our bathroom actually. I read it every day. It's been up there for a few years now. I guess when I "get it" I'll change to another verse, but for now it reamins taped to the mirror I look at each morning.

There is a song that we sing at church that I just can't seem to belt out like the others. The chorus starts with, "Your grace is enough. Your grace is enough. Your grace is enough for me." I can sing the rest, but when I hit that part, I get a bit choked. As a recovering English teacher, I still need to examine the text, unpack the meaning so to speak.

“Is Jesus enough?” My immediate answer is a resounding, “YES!” Wait. Unpack the question. Is Jesus enough when your spouse walks out, when you lose your job, when your child dies, when you can’t conceive a child, when an illness side-swipes you? The list seems painfully endless. I can’t honestly say I would feel the same if tragedy struck my life.

To say that "Your grace in enough" is a huge and weighty declaration. I don’t know about you, but when God wants me to learn a lesson, the theme of that lesson seems to recur like a revolving door. I watch a special on TV about a man with cancer, listen to two women battling cancer, talk to my dad about Congestive Heart Failure, read a book about a family's response to the death of their father..So, it will be no surprise to you that we send the very song in question the night of the women's meeting. Jenny encouraged everyone to "deal" with God so I asked God this question, “God, tell me why Jesus would NOT be enough in my life?”

First, I was reminded that as a daughter of Eve, I have want to know how tomorrow will turn out; like Eve I want to eat from the tree of knowledge. I've had a day planner since I was in junior high. I need to orchestrate my day. I want to know what's coming. My inner Eve would say, “If God loves me then He would want me to know the future so I can feel secure.”

Second, I am like the Israelites who wondered the desert grumbling and complaining even though God provided daily for their physical and emotional needs. My inner Israelite says, “God may provide shoes, food, and His presence on my walk in the desert, but I want more than that. I want some fun red pumps, a French bistro with fancy linens and a fast car to get out of the desert as soon as possible!”


What I realized was that Jesus will never be enough for me if I let pride or fear make me doubt His desire to be the provision for my every need. God promises that His mercies are new every day; that we can trust Him to provide for our every need in His perfect time (Lamentations 3:22-25).

No matter what my need is today, can I say that Jesus is enough? Do I trust and believe that God loves me and has a purpose and plan for my life? Do I believe that His provision, mercy, grace, and forgiveness are available each day?

“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble” - Matthew 6:34

Thursday, April 10, 2008

Bucket List

Last night, at the suggestion of my great aunt, we watched the Prime Time Special highlighting Randy Pausch. Pausch, 47, has pancreatic cancer, a terminal disease. So far he has defied the odds, but the cancer has spread to his liver. His prognosis is poor.

Pausch, a professor at Pittsburgh's Carnegie Mellon University, isn't about dying, however. He's about living. Living for his wife and their three young children. Living a good life as long as he can.

Watching it I remembered reading Tuesdays with Morrie with my high school students. We talked about people who have made a profound difference in our lives—someone who changed our lives, made us think more deeply, set our feet on the right path. For some it was a teacher we met in a classroom, but it could just have easily been a coach, a youth group leader, a family or community elder, or religious leader. Then I asked my students to write a tribute to such a teacher, someone who has taught them an important lesson that they still remember.

The best lessons are the life lessons, you know.


Morrie didn't have to meet with his former student week after week and Pausch knew that he could cancel his "last lecture" but here's why he did it: "... by speaking, I knew I could put myself in a bottle that would one day wash up on the beach for my children, Dylan, Logan and Chloe..."

Isn't that why so many of us do the things that we do? Things that we don't want to do. We do them any way. Compelled by love.

Here were the life lessons of this lecture...

Always Have Fun

Dream Big

Ask for What You Want

Dare to Take a Risk

Look for the Best in Everybody

Make Time for what Matters

Let the Kids Be Themselves

In the course of this lecture he also shared some of his childhood dreams - some of which people have made come true for him. It made me think. I still have time. Where were my childhood dreams? I still have time to make those come true. What can I do today to help me realize those dreams?

So what are your childhood dreams?

We all know that death is eminent. Very few have ever esacped it. Virtually every one goes through it. It is a rare person who actually knows how much time they have left. My step-uncle - if there is such at thing - knows that he has less than a year. The doctors told him that yesterday. My own father was told 3 years ago that he'd be lucky to see another Christmas with the Conjestive Heart Failure he's got...time is precious.

What am I going to look back on when I hear my times up? How will I feel about the time I've spend? What life lessons will I have taught my children?

Write down five things that you would like to do during your life. Ask your loved ones to do the same and then share with each other. What can you do to help each other make those dreams come true?


A house is made of walls and beams; a home is built with love and dreams. Author Unknown

Unsinkable

It was on this day in 1912 that the R.M.S. Titanic departed Southampton, England, on its maiden voyage across the Atlantic. It was supposed to arrive in New York City on April 15th.

It was the biggest passenger ship ever built at the time at 882 feet long and 92 feet wide. Its hull had a capacity of more than four and a half million cubic feet. The Titanic is generally remembered as a luxury liner, but only 325 of the 2,224 people on board were traveling in first class. Many of the passengers were European immigrants hoping to start new lives in America.
On the fifth night of the ship's voyage, the weather was clear and windless. There was no moon. It had been an especially warm winter and many icebergs had broken off from glaciers farther north, so the lookout men had been told to keep an eye out for them. At about 11:40, one of the lookouts, Frederick Fleet, saw a huge dark object floating in the water in front of the ship. He yelled, "Iceberg right ahead," and rang an alarm bell. Many of the passengers awake that night later said that they felt a slight bump.

The sinking of the Titanic was one of the worst maritime disasters in history, and it has been a great inspiration to all kinds of artists. More than 500 songs were written about the disaster, most famously "It Was Sad When That Great Ship Went Down" by Pop Stoneman, with the lines, "Oh they threw the lifeboats out o'er the dark and stormy sea / The band struck up with 'Nearer My God to Thee' / Children wept and cried as the water rushed through the side / It was sad when that great ship went down." We used to sing that one at summer camp, echoing "oh it was sad, mighty bad" yelling. Never thinking about the words, the people. The disaster has also been the subject of more than a hundred books and at least a dozen movies.

One of my favorites is the 1964 movie where a fictional story of Margaret Tobin Brown, better know as The Unsinkable Molly Brown. Born and raised in wilderness, Molly left to Leadville to seek her fame and fortune, where she met Johnny Brown and the two found their fortunes in silver and gold mines. After striking it rich, they moved to Denver to mingle with the wealthy. However they do not receive the welcome mat from the high society of Denver so they head for Europe to improve their image. While in Europe, the Browns meet the "Crown Heads" of Europe and invite them to Denver. Only to end up in a huge scuffle that ends up in the sports page of the local paper. Johnny is fed up with this rich lifestyle and wants to return to Leadville. However, Molly wants to return to Europe. So the two go their separate ways. While in Europe, Molly begins to miss Johnny so she decides to travel back home on the infamous Titanic where Molly gains her nickname by her bravery through the disaster. When Molly meets Johnny back in Denver, the two make amends.

In the movie, Molly Brown decided not to be content with the circumstances that life dealt her. This week I met women at an area wide ladies function who choose not to be content with what life handed them either. Both have dealt with cancer, one helping her sister through brain cancer it and the other in the throws of breast cancer herself - and pregnant.

Monday started it all off with one huge challenge after another. The kids weren't getting around in the morning, couldn't even put their shoes on by themselves. Clayton was late to school. I was late to the orthodontist - even got pulled over for rolling through a stop sign even - in too much of a hurry ...once I finally got to work, it was discovered that we hadn't invited any students to the education class we were hosting the next day - shift to "Plan B." Billy was out of town for business half the week. We need a new roof and our air conditioner went out this week. We've already allocated our tax refund money about 6 different ways. I was feeling pretty defeated, pretty covered up by the circumstances - trying to dodge the icebergs.

But Thursday I heard the stories of these women, listened to them talk about their dealings with God, saw their joy amidst the waves. It's amazing how God places people in your path who lift your head to Him at just the right time. I was too worried about the sinking ship that I never saw the life boats, never trusted that He's already sent for help. And what if He's already moved the icebergs and the ships not sinking after all?

I want to weather the storm like Molly Brown, but I don't want to be counted as brave, just faithful.

Friday, April 4, 2008

The Power of Influence


Eve knew it (Gen 3). Deliah knew it (Judges 16). God has given women the ability to have some influence over men. What was it about Eve that caused Adam to follow her? Did Eve flash Adam a winning smile? Did she turn the perfect phrase? Why didn't he stop her? How could she in such a simple moment convince the incarnate heartbeat of God to disobey him? She influenced him. I'm not saying that Adam was a push-over. She just had a way with him and it caused him to sin.

God has given women the power of influence. Influence is when you effectively alter someone else’s perceptions, views, beliefs, attitudes, decisions thus altering their actions.

As the Marketing and Training Coordinator at the university, my effectiveness is directly correlated to my ability to influence. The expert influencer understands people, how they think, what makes them tick and how to get on the same wave-lengh.

Successful leaders, entrepreneurs and agents of change, know and appreciate the power to influence; they do not leave things to chance and hope they make a good impression they plan and practice their strategy to ensure success.

As a marketing manager, as a teacher, as a parent, I know the power of my influence. I use my influence everyday.

God has been dealing with me about the power of influence I have in my marriage. God has put in us the power of influence. What I do with it can either build my husband up in Christ or tear him down.

It seems one of the biggest reasons we fail to affirm our mates is because we're too preoccupied with ourselves. Praising and affirming your mate takes a conscious act of your will. It means changing my thinking from, "What's good for me?" to "What's best for my spouse?" And when we change our focus, we will automatically look for the good in our spouses. Learn to see the positive side, and let your mate know how much you appreciate his strengths.

I am grateful all the time for my husband taking care of us financially, spiritually, emotionally and many other ways. But I need to tell him - even before he really steps up to the plate in some areas. I need to speak over him a vision for what I know he can be.

Today I thanked him for working so hard at work. He took me to lunch - just the two of us - after he received his quarterly bonus. Tonight I will thank him for being attentive to our children. Tomorrow I think will thank him for being a great host to our extended family. I will start thanking him for hearing me out when I had a bad day. I want to build a habit of daily praise, to purpose to say one nice thing each day to my partner. I need to tell him often that I think he is such a man. Warrior talk if you will.

I want to make him feel like a man. So that he knows I respect him. Men crave respect just as we crave love. I want to speak that into his life.

If you can't speak that into your husbands life yet, start praying for ways that you can. Start being deliberate about finding something you can thank him for, rather than nag him for. Nagging never works. You might get what you want, but it won't be how you want it. He'll do it because he's sick of hearing you nag. Just ask Deliah and take a note from the Bible: Proverbs 27:15-16 A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day; restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand.

I know that I can be prone to being quarrelsome. I know that this can come from not getting your needs met. He doesn't meet your needs, you don't meet his, so he doesn't meet yours. Around and around it goes. But, I need to be the one to decide to make a change. Stop the cycle. I want to be the one who speaks life into my husband. Speak honor. Speak respect. I think that we just might notice our world is a lot more wonderful.

Our words hold the power to drive our husbands into a cave or to raise your men into Warriors.

Speak wisely.

Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. Prov. 16:24

An Opportunity to Get Things


In the movie Evan Almighty, Evan Baxter, newly elected to congressman, declares that he will change the world, but he never states how. Their first night in their new house Evens ife, Joan reports that she and the children all prayed together and lists the things they requested. At first Evan dismisses the importance of prayer, but later than night, kneels on the flor beside the bed and asks for God's help too. Soon after, strange things start to happen. Animals start following Evan around. He grows a beard that won't go away no matter how many times he shaves. Tools used in Biblical times, and wood planks, are sent to his house. And the number 614 appears everywhere he goes. Evan soon learns that the number is a verse in the Bible. In the book of Genesis, 6:14 is the verse in which God instructs Noah to build the ark.

Weeks after these events begin to unfold Evans wife leaves him and takes the kids. Then God appears to her as a waiter at a diner, with a name badge that says, "Al Mighty." He tells her that God doesn't give things, he gives the opportunity to get things. For example, God doesn't give a family togetherness, he gives the opportunity for families to be together. Seeing his meaning, Joan returns to Evan to finish the ark together. They grow closer as a family. She trusts him again. The boys think that he's a hero...He saves the National Parks from development...
It challenged me to think, "What could I accomplish today if I allowed God to work through me? What would I like to see?"
Think of something you want to do beyond what you can do, and pray for that.

Author Stormie Omartian says, "Too often we underestimate prayer's power. When you realize that power, you realize you can't afford not to pray. The more you have to do, the more time you should spend praying. And that, in turn, blesses what you're doing."
In the movie it was because of their prayers, the desires of their hearts, that the events began to unfold.

Jesus said, "I came so that [you] may have life, and have it abundantly" (John 10:10). That's the kind of life he desires for us! But our best efforts to break out of our negative patterns can't happen without God's power. And that can't happen without prayer - it's an opportunity to get the things God wants to give us.

Wednesday, April 2, 2008

Lazy People

Many people believe that the reason that they are not successful is because of other things - other people, the economy. They know that lots of people struggle.

Others blame the government for their lack of success. They complain that taxes are too high. They say that there is not enough government help and subsidy. These people believe that if the government would just do things right, then they could be successful.

Others believe that the reason they cannot succeed is due to "evil practices" in the corporate world. They blame shady business policies. They have adapted the belief that they are simply working to make someone else wealthy.

A lot of unsuccessful people truly believe these things. They are convinced that situations and circumstances in life are certainly not their fault. But is that really true, or are some people just lazy?

It is very easy to blame rather than to take responsibility. It is the easy way out. It also contributes to people developing a false sense of reality.

Now, is the economy really the issue? Have you ever thought just how much money is available in the world today? There is not a lack of money. There is an abundance of money!

How about lack of opportunity? Many times, you hear people say things like, "Well there just aren't any opportunities for me." Honestly, in today's world, that sounds ridiculous. Is there a lack of opportunity? Not hardly. We live in the the Land of Opportunity!

What about someone who has a lack of education? You hear people say, "Well, I never went to college." "I'm not very smart." "I don't have the time or the money to go to college now."
Again, that's the easy way out. Statements like that indicate that the person takes no responsibility for their life! And it gives them a false sense of reality. I know plenty of people who never went to college and are highly successful.

Just how much information is sitting on the shelves at the local library? How many self help books, programs, seminars are available at the bookstore? How much information is on the Web?

This is the Information age. If a person chooses to, they can put forth an effort and gain knowledge in whatever field they choose. Everything a person needs to become successful and to reach their goals and dreams is really right within their grasp.

Now of course, to reach out for it takes effort. And, to make an effort requires a choice. The big problem and the real issue really is that for some people it is far easier to sit, complain and blame, than to get up, reach and acquire. People who sit around, complain, and blame are wasting their lives!

Your life can change, dramatically, once you decide that it is in your power to do so. The Creator gave all of us free will to make our own decisions. A person can pray all day long for things to improve, but if they don't take some action, they will probally not see any results.

God gave us all a brain so that we could think and learn and grow! Make no mistake. You can ask for His help. He will help you and guide you and bring you to your desired haven. Psalms 37:4, tells us, "Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart." But, He will not just take over your life while you sit on the couch waiting for it all to happen.

You can be successful. You can reach your goals and dreams. You can have the desires of your heart. Instead of complaining and blaming, turn your focus and energy to pursuing the Lord - what are His goals and desires for you? The Lord tells, Jeremiah, "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future (29:11)." Focus on those goals and dreams and desires. Get up and take some action.

Keep focused on where you desire to go, not where you are today. Stay focused! Learn and grow! Don't be lazy!

Monday, March 31, 2008

Ministry: It Begins

Because of Travis and his experience with the Llano Chrysalis Community, I am compelled to write to you - this is the first blog on the llano chrysalis myspace account. I first met Travis when his family came to our church around 2000 or so. Travis is fun-loving, light-hearted, and a people person. He can carry on a convesation, let me tell you.
Later Travis became one of my students. I was an English teacher. I saw Travis in a different light then. He was beginning one of the roughest periods in his young life.

I belive in the law of sowing and reaping. We make choices. You sow love and joy; you will reap love and joy. Deuteronomy 30:19 says, "I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life." It was so painful to watch as Travis choose death. His choices brought destruction.

But God never let go. He was constantly persuing Travis. Chasing him because He loves him. He ran after Travis until he had no place else to run and he fell on his knees before the Lord and just like a man in the Bible Travis begged, "If You are willing, You can make me clean." Christ, "filled with compassion" replied, "I am willing; be clean" (Mark 1:40-41).

We too can fall on our knees and acknowledge God’s only provision for our sins. We too can hear, "I am willing; be clean." Christ willingly took God’s righteous indignation upon Himself so that you don’t have to; whoever accepts His death upon the cross as payment for their sins will be reconciled to the God whom they’ve offended.

"All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ…God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting men’s sins against them…God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God" (2 Corinthians 5:18-19, 21).
God is in the business of transformation. Travis in now ministering to youth. God stayed with Travis through his trials, loved him through it, and is now goingto alow him to use those experiences for His glory. What Satan intends for evil, God intends for good.

On behalf of Travis, let me ask you: Will you accept God’s love today?

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